Updated: Jul 12
If you're like me your significant other was basically your whole world up until your baby. (No? just me? am I creepily obsessed with my man?) Anyways, adjusting to life with a baby can be so hard on your relationship. Here's how:
You'll miss him. Even though you live together, and are taking care of a baby together, you're not really together. Does that make sense? you're both trying to keep this new tiny human alive while also taking care of yourself. There's no quality time for each other.
I remember a friend telling me to get all my loving in with my boyfriend before my daughter was born. I remember her saying "Once the baby is here there will be no time for each other" AND I LAUGHED! I replied "I'm pretty sure you can take care of a baby and have quality time with your man". (How cute).
I don't want to scare all the pregnant women. You can still have quality time you're just going to have to work for it. For example, I remember being so tired but staying up with my boyfriend to watch a movie and cuddle. Or asking my mom or his to watch our daughter so we could go do groceries alone. It's the little things after you have a baby that really counts. Not the luxurious dates, and nights away. A simple drive to the grocery store together can help you both reconnect.
You'll both somewhat hate each other. Not to be too blunt but It's safe to say I hated my boyfriend about 70% of the time right after my daughter was born. It sounds harsh but it's the truth! It goes both ways though. (I asked my man while writing this if he hated me after our daughter was born and he said yes.) I'm not sure if it was the hormones or adjusting to our new roles but we got on each other's nerves all the time!
So, if you're fighting lots with your significant other after having a baby don't be too worried. It's most likely the adjustment to your new life and totally normal.
Lastly, You'll fall in love with him in ways you never thought you could. This is so cheesy but so true. Seeing your love become a father is the purest form of love you'll ever feel. Seeing the way he loves your baby will make your heart the happiest it's ever been.
Although the cons are strong and the nights are long (hey that rhymes) the new love you'll find for each other outweighs all the negatives.
So enjoy your new baby and don't take things so seriously eventually, things will fall into a new balance and you'll be the happiest you've ever been.