Let's be real, you see a young girl with a baby and subtlely stare at her. Thinking "Is she the sister?" "There's no way she's the mother". I've learned to grow accustomed to the stares. Not paying much attention to it anymore.
It never really bothered me until I joined a Mommy and Me Yoga class. Right upon entering I felt extremely awkward. All the moms were mid-thirties, blonde, and looked mildly successful (if that makes sense, you know when you can just tell someone has a fulfilling career?). At that moment I remember thinking "What the hell am I doing here? I'm not a middle-aged suburban mom, I don't belong here".
I'm not the type of person who lets what people may or may not think about me get to me. I like to believe I'm strong-minded. But for some reason, that class made me feel so out of place and uncomfortable.
I remember when it was time for the next class I was thinking of reasons why I shouldn't go. "I really do need an oil change, I should just do that instead" Or "My daughter will probably need a nap around 11 I should skip class".
Then it hit me. I have to go, if not for myself than for my daughter. I am no different than any of the other moms. Sure I'm about ten years younger than them but so what! If they're wondering how old I am then let them. That's none of my business.
Don't get me wrong, the class was still super uncomfortable for me. But I felt better instantly. Realizing I wouldn't let my negative self-talk get in the way of a beautiful bonding moment between my daughter and me.
It's important for young moms to not allow themselves to stay away from certain situations for the fear of being judged. To be fair, as a young mom you will get judged that's just how it works. It's unfortunate, but you have to learn to accept it. But it's essential to remind yourself that just because you're young does not mean you're less of a mom.
If you're a young mom or if you're just different from a conventional "mom" Don't let that intimidate you! Show up and be proud of whoever you are. Don't skip the class, set an example for other mama's out there!